
I got the SMS yesterday from Bin and I literally staggered and had to sit down. I wasn’t that close to him as a friend but he was always ready with a smile and funny remarks. We used to tease him a whole lot about becoming a celebrity one day – I’d tell him that I was his biggest fan (until Colin came along and I transferred my idolizing to Best Friend) because he had a gorgeous voice and real stage presence.
First memory of Ishi – sitting at the CS benches during Wednesday performances, hearing him sing for the first time, being absolutely captivated by his smooth, soulful voice. Joking about being the president of his fan club. Insisting I get his signature so that I could sell it off when he got famous.
I remember when I first met him at freshman orientation camp when I was just a freshman in 2003. He was the group leader for Apollo and was immediately noticeable cuz he’d go around with one pant leg rolled up, had a funky hairstyle, was always smiley and jokey and happy. Which makes it so agonizing – when you aren’t that close to someone, how can you ever know if a smile is real or fake? How do you know when someone’s covering up his sadness with a mask?
How can you step in to help save someone’s life?
Second memory – Tiffany rolling up one pant leg to imitate Ishi, the two of them bopping and laughing their heads off.
And another time – I once told him he needed a haircut. “Lazy lah,” he replied. “Don’t want to go to the salon just to trim my hair.”
“Hey, I’ll cut it for you. Right now.”
“Are you serious?” He started laughing. “Eh, I don’t mind. Why not.”
“You sure you trust me? Don’t regret, ok!” I grinned. “Let me go find a pair of scissors.”
So armed with scissors and a paper cup to catch the bits of hair, I trimmed his hair for him right there at the CS benches. It wasn’t a bad haircut, if I do say so myself.
I also remember him being featured in the Nanyang Chronicle – him and his dressing table with more lotions and creams and toners than I’ve used in a lifetime.
And then when I found out what his real name was: “Lau Gek How?! Your name is Gek How?!?” I burst out laughing. “No wonder you call yourself Ishi lah. Tak glam leh.”
He named himself Ishi because it means determination in Japanese. How I wish he’d used that determination to face life and push on into the future.
After his batch graduated I never really kept in touch with him. The last time I ever saw him would have been his acting stint in that Channel 8 show with Jeanette Aw, which I watched just to support him even though I don’t really watch Ch 8 dramas.
I know I wasn’t too close to him, but the news of the death of a friend always comes as a terrible shock. What more someone who always seemed so full of life and energy and smiles.
I don’t know what was troubling you, or what drove you to choose this path, but I honestly, deeply wish that you have found peace.
Take care, Ishi. Please be happy.
[4 bends in the road]Ishi Lau Gek How, a member of the hip-hop dance group SOUL who shot to fame in Channel U’s SuperBand, was found dead in a car yesterday afternoon outside the National Stadium. The actual cause of death is still unknown, although the rumour now is that the 25-year-old committed suicide.
Today’s edition of The New Paper reported the news of a young Chinese man found dead yesterday afternoon inside a Toyota Altis at the National Stadium, which we believe to be Ishi. The paper reported that a Bangladeshi worker had seen the car parked in the soon-to-be-demolisted National Stadium carpark since 8am yesterday. Thinking the man inside was sleeping, he let him be. But when the worker saw the man in the car again at 2pm, he alerted his supervisor. Puddles of vomit were splattered on the parking lot next to the car. Another man claimed that he had seen the Toyota in the area before, recognising it because of its unique car license plate number.
The Police has classified it as unnatural death.
News of Ishi’s death, released by the Police this morning, has left many people in extreme shock, not least the MediaCorp staff who knew the young and ever-so-lively Ishi from working with him in SuperBand.
“When the reporters called me this morning and told me the news, i couldn’t believe it and thought they were kidding me. It feels weird… unreal… Sam, Nic and I are very shocked,” Weiqi from MiLu Bing told us.
“I can’t remember the last time I met Ishi, but I think it was at a KDF charity event show. I’ve met up with the rest of SOUL after SuperBand ended but Ishi seemed busy. I’ve called Andy (from SOUL) and understood from him that Ishi’s parents are too overwhelmed with grief now to decide if there’s going to be a wake.”
Shinya from Lucify told us, “We’re very bothered. Ishi had always appeared so healthy, cheerful and fun-loving… always cracking jokes, but i supposed we didn’t know what was going on.”
Jasmin Chong, manager to SOUL at MediaCorp Artiste Management, said, “I’m shocked at the news… Ishi is a happy-go-lucky guy; very jovial. I really don’t know what happened. I heard the news this morning from the boys (from SOUL); they had gotten the news only this morning too. They didn’t say much, only that they will call me again when they find out more. They sounded ok.
“We don’t know the cause of death, I mean, we will only know when the toxicology report comes out right? It seems his body was there for a few hours. From the type of person he is, I doubt that he would kill himself but I don’t know…”
We asked Jasmin if we could speak to the rest of the SOUL members but learnt that they do not wish to speak to the media at the moment.
Ishi wasn’t just a dancer; he was also a singer and a dance instructor, coaching the Top 20 contestants of Project SuperStar 2 on the dance routine to their music videos. Tan Diya, the eventual female winner of the competition, was in a state of disbelief when she heard the news this morning.
“I thought it was a joke when I saw the SMS this morning; I just shouted ‘How could it be!?’ I kept thinking to myself, whether he called anyone or if anybody helped him before he died…
“He was my senior in Communications Studies at Nanyang Technological University; he was a very popular guy in school – he could sing, dance, and play the guitar… a lot of girls liked him. His name was the first few I heard when I entered university. He would take part in our school’s performances… he was really a famous guy in school.
“Someone said he committed suicide, but I just find that very unbelievable. He was a very lively, talented guy, is a full-time dance instructor now and has a bright future in front of him. I really don’t understand why he had to do this… I really don’t.”
Nat Tan, the first runner-up of Project SuperStar 2, also remembers Ishi as a man with a bright future ahead of him. “He had a great passion for dance and had his dance studio. He appeared very carefree. When he taught us contestants how to dance he was still very patient with us even though we kept making mistakes. This is a real pity… I even met him and talked with him at Raffles City Shopping Centre two weeks ago…”
Carrie Yeo, the first female runner-up, even more devastating news for us.
“He was an emotional person; someone said he had mood swings easily and became depressed sometimes. I even heard that the night he died, his MSN had a message: ‘Goodbye to all of you’. I think, if someone had shown him some concern and consolation then, this might not have happened. No matter how tough life is, one still shouldn’t commit suicide.”


